Right, so there’s something I’m guilty of. It’s probably something that has really only come to my attention in recent times, because it’s got to the point where people explicitly tell me.
I’m a pretty negative person.
Unfortunately, for most of my adult life I’ve had a tendency to complain and look for the bad in most situations. While I think this may have started with the people I chose to surround myself with, I think with time it has become an ingrained habit. Don’t get me wrong, I’m a fairly happy person on the inside. I’m content with my lot in life, but there seems to be something about…well, bitching, that seems hard to shake.
But why? after a good old bitch with a mate, you usually feel a sense of catharsis..right? Well, if you’re doing it all the time it can actually mean that you get stuck in a negative head-space and surprise! now everything sucks.
I’ve been reading a lot of studies that show the more gratitude and altruism you push out, the more happy, generous and positive you become. I think I probably need a little more of those qualities, so have decided to actively work on my gratitude and generosity.
Now, this isn’t a new years resolution because I don’t believe in those (the passing of time does not give you power to be a different person) but I think I’d like to write a list of all the things I’m grateful for. I’m handling the big boys first, but I think it would be nice to do this on a smaller scale on the regular as an ongoing project…
So, the things I’m thankful for…
Ok, yes corny. Everyone pulls out the family card right? I think what I’m more thankful for is that my family understands me, is strong and I can learn from them. I’m very privileged to be close and trust in the family I have around me, sometimes it’s important to remember that this is a gift and not something everyone has.
2. A partner who is genuine
I didn’t know how to write this without it sounding even lamer. Basically what I’m trying to get at is the fact that I can say with 100% confidence that I am with someone who has my best interests at heart at all times. To have someone you love and loves you, and has been with you through all stages of growth in your adult life is a very special thing.
3. To have a strong and able physical body
I am small, but I am strong. I can walk for miles, and if I need to do something physical most of the time my body will oblige. I have no major health issues, I can run, walk and jump. I can for the most part eat what I want, and do the things I want without pain. These sound basic and boring, but for many people it is a privilege.
4. A place to call my own
Yes, like 99% of Auckland millennials I rent. So this is an interpretation. But I love our little house, it’s sunny, quiet and green. The ceilings are high, the floors are wood and it’s always safe. Even if I wasn’t there, I always have a place to go. Whether it be friends places, my family home or any other safe space. I always will have a place.